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Here’s why this woman avoided foreplay with her partner – in her own words… “I haven’t had many sexual partners, but from each one I’ve learnt important lessons about myself, what I like in bed and how I feel about my body. My first boyfriend, at 17, was the first guy who made me feel good about my body. When his friends teased me about my big bum, he’d defend me by telling them how much he loved it. I was a size 32 then – the biggest I’ve ever been, and probably the most insecure. “Another relationship taught me about my needs and what turns me on – and what doesn’t. And the more certain I became about what I wanted in bed, the more my hang-ups started to fall away. Once, when I dyed my hair blonde, men would hit on me, calling me J.Lo. I loved that. Finally I was seeing myself the way others saw me. READ MORE: “I Had Sex For The First Time On My Wedding Night – This Is What Happened” The Figure Fixation “My fixation with my figure started as far back as junior school. As a gi...

How do I love thee, masturbation …let me count the ways…. Well get ready, because your long list of reasons to love masturbating just got even longer. (YAS, Queen!) That’s because upping your arousal—ideally ending in an orgasm—taps into several biological systems, says Dr. Adeeti Gupta, gynae and founder of Walk In GYN Carein New York. Consider this all the more reason to schedule a solo sesh tonight: 1. Masturbating Can Help You Sleep Better Tucking yourself into bed with an orgasm can definitely help you sleep better and deeper, says Gupta. This is likely due to a few different things, according to the experts. “The stress relief from good sex or from masturbation can enhance sleep because it gets you into a good state—a less-stress state,” explains Dr. Nan Wise, a cognitive neuroscientist and certified sex therapist. Think of that feeling of zen calm that comes after getting yourself off as a post-sex lullaby. According to the American  National Sleep Foundation , ...

There’s no denying that butts are all the rage: From toning your glutes to admiring Kim Kardashian’s booty, butt stuff is a hot topic. And the final frontier of this booty-mania? Anal. There’s no doubt that anal sex still comes with a bit of (albeit sexy) taboo. Perhaps that’s because stepping into the anal arena for the first time can be intimidating, to say the least. What the heck are you supposed to do down there? Is it painful? Enjoyable? And most of all: Is it actually possible to have an anal orgasm? What is an anal orgasm? For starters: Yes, anal sex can be enjoyable. And yes, anal orgasms are totally thing. Simply put, an anal orgasm is climax achieved by stimulation of high-density nerve spots in the anus. “Orgasms are essentially the sudden release of sexual tension,” explains Dr. Sheila Loanzon, an obstetrician and gynaecologist, and a fellow of the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology. “And there are different ways that an orgasm can be re...

Standing sex positions can come in handy for all sorts of situations. You want to change things up in the bedroom; that gotta-have-you-now feeling strikes, but all you have to work with is a public bathroom; or you just want to get it on while prepping dinner (hey, you do you). Whatever the reason for your upright escapade, there are plenty of fun and ~hot~ positions to try. Ballet Dancer How to:  Stand on one foot, face to face, and have your partner wrap your other leg around their waist, while they support your body. If you’re really flexible, try putting the raised leg on your partner’s shoulder for even deeper penetration. Why it’s great:  This position allows for quality, intimate face time. And since your bodies are so close together, it’s perfect for tight spaces like…say…an airplane bathroom. (What, who said that?) READ MORE:   8 Sex Positions That Make Doing It In The Shower Fun — Not Treacherous Wheelbarrow How to:  Get on your hands and feet and...

If you’re convinced that everyone else is having orgasms on orgasms while you’re just waiting around, frustrated and climax-less in your bed, here’s something that may soothe your sexual frustration: Plenty of women have trouble reaching orgasm. In fact, according to a recent study in the  Archives of Sexual Behavior , only 65 percent of women are able to have orgasms during intercourse. That means 35 percent of women can’t orgasm from sex. And beyond that, there are also many women who can’t orgasm ever. “If you’ve never had an orgasm, examining potential inhibitory issues can be incredibly helpful,” says Kat Van Kirk, an AASECT-certified sex therapist and author of  The Married Sex Solution: A Realistic Guide to Saving Your Sex Life . What the eff is holding me back? It could be anything from negative self-talk, to intimacy issues, to side effects of medications that impact your libido. One common problem: You haven’t gotten a chance to know yourself. “It’s ...